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March 21st, 2014 at 08:27 am


for the kind support the past few days with my posts. I've been sleep deprived and worried and stressed and just not in a good place.

I had a chat with DH yesterday (forced myself to, after an avoidant personality disordered moment where I left to go to the Y and put the girls in charge of getting dinner ready with a no screen time order, meaning find a book and read). I came home to silence and DH was on the laptop (tethered to work).

I asked if he thought that maybe pursuing a temp job through a placement agency might be an option to get him out of his version of Hell (aka Spreadsheet Armageddon). He said that would be tantamount to financial suicide for the family. I pointed out that I am well aware that we'll be living on less, and my biological father did offer to cover insurance expenses - he can afford it and that would be a gift I would consider accepting at this point). I also told DH that I am worried about his health (he's gained 20+ in the eight months on the job) and the stress. I encouraged him to take advantage of the last exercise class at work (OM contracted out to a personal trainer) and DH had a reason not to (he has major conflict with one coworker who is a daily participant). There isn't really much that I can do on that end, other than offer up the funds.

We agreed to a "work free" weekend. The laptop is staying at work (or at least in the car) and we're having a lot of friends over tomorrow night for dinner (14 other than our usual seven). I look forward to enjoying company and getting back to a reality outside of our present situation.

Because I just feel like I am in survival mode right now (not being financially prudent), anyone ever been in this situation and what did you do? I guess I am specifically asking about leaving a job and going to a temp job. Not ideal, but I think it might be my reality soon. Our experience is that with several headhunters having DH's resume, nothing is really coming of it. And last day of employment is 8/31. Can he make it that long? I highly doubt it. At least not healthy and happily married.

3 Responses to “Thank you ”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Sorry no experience on leaving job and working for a temp. It seems worth checking into to talk to someone at one of them. Keep talking to all the people you know...networking is one the best ways to find a job. Smile And keep talking to your DH, about how you can help him manage his stress.

  2. Looking Forward Says:

    If he is so stressed maybe he can leave on disability due to stress.. this would be if his doctor sees the medical changes you are seeing.. which sound pretty serious.
    Good luck!

  3. PatientSaver Says:

    Living the temp lifestyle is not easy, but it's better than being unemployed! It's hard because you constantly have to "prove yourself" at each new assignment you begin, and you are also constantly job hunting for the next job. It's a very transient way to live (some perm employees won't bother reaching out or getting to know you becus they know you won't be there long) and it's impossible to plan your future. It would never be my choice, but right now, it's my reality.

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